Acute Angle

When a disagreement between two people becomes a discussion, we call it an Argument. Over a period of time, we have accumulated lot of prejudices. It is these prejudices along with our logical thinking ability urges us to get involved into an argument. Argument is like a fire. If we keep feeding, it grows bigger and bigger. Rather, if you stop feeding, it would extinguish by itself. Why not argue? Why should I avoid it? I'm I not supposed to express my disagreement? How to avoid arguments?

You can never win an argument. Ideally there is nothing in this universe that is wrong or right. Everything is subject to the relativity of individual's perception. And perception is reality. A result of an argument is purely based on the net speaking ability of the individuals involved. When you lose in an argument, you lose. But when you win, still you lose. By winning an argument you lose the goodwill of the opponent. Each individual is unique, so also their ideas and thinking. So, it is not correct to prove something or someone wrong.

According to Buddha, 'Hatred is, indeed, never appeased by hatred in this world. It is appeased only by loving-kindness'. The only way to get the best out of an argument is to avoid it. To substantiate something right, it is not necessary to prove something or somebody is wrong. Everything has got its merits and demerits. Instead of working on the demerits of something, we can work on the merits. So, focus on the positives. Remember, arguments are short-lived than relationships. It is ok to lose an argument and retain the relationship for life time.

Each and everyone is free to express her disagreement. But when trying to arrive at conclusions, it leads to an argument. How to avoid arguments? Whenever there is a disagreement and even if you know for sure that you are right, save your opponent's face. Look out for the areas of agreement and highlight it. Honestly admit that you may also be wrong and tell the opponent 'let us examine'. If this method does not work, postpone the action, and this can do the trick.

If you want, you can avoid argument. Assume you are arguing with a person whom you consider to be more knowledgeable than you. Since the person know more than you, why not save her face. Proving you are right is not going to make you more knowledgeable. Assume you are arguing with a person whom you consider to be less knowledgeable than you. Since the person knows less than you, it is not logical to expect your opponent to appreciate and understand to your point. Proving you are right is not going to do good for you. What about the case, where you are arguing with someone who is as knowledgeable as you? Here again, you can avoid the argument. Since you agree that the person knows as much as you know, there exists 50% possibility of the other person being right. So why not save her face and stop arguing. It is only the time, which can concludes who is right and who is wrong. Still, for many cases, you might not know, whether it is right or wrong? These are called the indicibles. Hence it is prudent to leave a disagreement as a mere opinion without indulging in an argument.

Sarathy.

Frog in the boiling water

'Cigarette smoking is injurious to health'. Everyone knows this, infact, it is printed in every cigarette packet. However it is shocking to know that a big mass (more than 25%) of our community has surrendered themselves to the cigarette smoking habit. Did you know? Researchers claim that the cigarette smokers increase their chances of lung cancer by five times. According to statistics, in US, every one person out of four, is a cigarette smoker. If you are a cigarette smoker and who do not believe these data, please avoid reading this post and save your time for smoking another couple of cigarettes!! **

I lost two of my close friends due to cigarette smoking habit. These real life tragedies impacted me a lot. How many more friends I'm going to lose to these cigarettes for the rest of my life !! I do not know the statistics of how many die / suffer everyday due to cigarette smoking habit. So, I decided to persuade to each and every smoker to quit smoking. I'm happy and proud that four of my friends stopped smoking. Though I had very small role to play, but the satisfaction I got out of it was tremendous.

Let us keep in mind that we are not a single entity. We have a loving family, passionate organization, emerging nation and a happy planet. Let us stay healthier for longer period to take care of our family, the organization, our nation and the planet. It is ok, if we do not improve our environment, but atleast let us not spoil them. Let us do our best possible to hand over a cleaner globe to our next generation. Today is the best time to stop smoking as well start preaching about the bad effects of smoking to the people around. Remember that when a person quits smoking, he reduces the risk of cancer and heart attacks to a great extent. He enjoys a better blood pressure. Along with him the people associated also get to inhale a pure air.

Ceaser was a pet dog of a wealthy family in a small town. Ceaser was taken utmost care that he was given the best food, best care, best treatment and so on. Ceaser was not exposed to the external world, so he wanted to run away from the house to enjoy the external world. One fine morning, as planned, Ceaser ran away from the house. He ran to the farthest of the town. In the evening Ceaser started feeling hungry. He had nobody to feed him. He had to find the food for himself. So he started searching for food. Unfortunately, for the next two days, Ceaser could not find any food. So, he was tired and weak. On the third day afternoon, in the hot sun, Ceaser managed to identify a bone in one of the streets. He was happy and caught hold of it in his mouth. Ceaser started biting the bone. As it was a brittle bone, Ceaser's mouth got hurt and blood started coming from his mouth. Poor Ceaser thought the blood was coming from the bone and started sucking the bone for more enjoyment. So more and more blood was coming from his own body to feed him. Ceaser did not realized it and eventually died.

According to Swami Sukhabodhananda, the people who have smoking habit are no better than the Ceaser mentioned in the above story. Cigarette smokers derive pleasure at the cost of their health and they pretend as though they do not know the fact that the cigarette smoking leads them to a quicker DEATH.

Remember cigarette smoking leads to addiction, where in, it would be very difficult for a person to control the smoking habit. One who cannot control his habits cannot control his destiny. People who do not have control over their destiny do not succeed. More over good health is one of the key ingredients for greater success. Hence the people who smoke cigarette are considered to be a failure, because they are short lived.

You have the option to be a responsive human or to be a frog in the boiling water. Finally, the option is yours.

Want to Succeed in Life? Stop smoking NOW and start Succeeding.

Sarathy

PS : ** 90% of the smokers would have read the full article, the first time. The other 10% of them would have bookmarked it to read it later for many times.

This is just my first post

This is just my first post